You’re always up for grabbing lunch with him, you always reply to his texts, and you’ve been trying to flirt subtly for weeks. He’s responsive but you’re not exactly clear on his real feelings for you. Does he want to date you or would he prefer if you just stayed buds? Here are 14 signs that he sees you as a friend, not a girlfriend.
YOU’RE HIS CONFIDANTE.
One of the biggest signs that he’d prefer having you as his friend instead of a flame is that he confides in you about his life. You might think the fact that he’s opening up to you is a good thing, but there’s such a thing as TMI, especially in the early stages of getting to know someone. If he has no shame about telling you how he’s hit it and split it with some other women, for instance, he’s not trying to make a good first impression. He’s letting all his secrets hang out because he can’t threaten your relationship, which is totally platonic.
HE LOOKS SCRUFFY AROUND YOU.
A guy who likes you will want to show you that he takes care of himself because he wants to look sexy AF for you. If the guy’s showing up to your hangouts with a scruffy beard and looking like he’s been wearing the same t-shirt for days, he’s treating you as a friend. It’s as simple as that.
HE DOESN’T CALL IT DATING.
He’ll invite you out for pizza or drinks, but he never calls these outings “dates.” He’ll say you’re hanging out, perhaps, which is a far cry from dating. Sure, he could just be playing it cool, but chances are, he means exactly what he says. He doesn’t call it a date because he doesn’t consider it one.