Psychologists and Divorce Lawyers Recommend Asking 10 Special Questions on a First Date

4. Which feature irritates you the most?

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When on a first date, people try to show themselves in the best light possible. But there could be personal traits under the surface which could lead to unforgiving conflict. Psychologist Ryan Howes explains, “If your partner likes tidiness, and you are messy, then you two have a big problem.” And it can relate to anything, e.g. you love silence and your date prefers noisy parties. It’s better to figure these things out in advance.

5. How often do you communicate with your parents and relatives?

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The frequency of communication with parents and a person’s depedence on their opinion can play a decisive role in a couple’s relationship. Divorce lawyer Carla Donnelly confirms that there are actually married people who still prioritize the needs of their parents and relatives above the interests of their spouse. On the other hand, bad relationships with parents could be a sign of an unstable mental state. These people can be incapable of being in a relationship for a long time and may not know how to compromise.

6. What’s your opinion on abortion?

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Yes, you read it correctly. And, truly, you could ask any other difficult question. Psychologist Dan Ariely described his experiment where a group of young people dating online was allowed to ask their date only awkward questions which had nothing to do with weather, work, or other banal stuff. As a result, it helped people to relax, actually share their hidden thoughts, and experience a great range of emotions which made their communication much brighter. At the same time, the person who asked the question was able show themself as a good listener.

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