ONLY THOSE WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED IT KNOW THE REALITIES OF DISSOLVING A MARRIAGE
Getting divorced is incredibly hard. Most people only ever do it once, and for that reason never get to apply the lessons they learned from the experience to their own lives. The best they can do is take these hard-won nuggets of wisdom and share them with others who may find themselves on the cusp of getting divorced themselves one day. Because in many cases, there are a range of reasons why divorce is good and many times when divorce is best. With that in mind, here are 30 such things that only divorced people know.
That only one of you can’t save the marriage
If you want the marriage to survive, you soon realize that regardless of how hard you work to right the ship, you simply can’t do it alone. Though it’s hard to walk away from your marriage, sooner or later all divorced people realize that if one of you doesn’t want to be there, the relationship as you know it has run its course.
That it’s not easy. Ever.
Yes, that’s obvious—as obvious as uttering a phrase like “war is ghastly business.” But just as the vast majority of us have no clue what it’s truly like to engage in real combat, no one but the divorcée or divorcé truly knows how profoundly difficult a divorce is—emotionally, spiritually, or financially. That’s why you need to do your research and prepare yourself as best you can and try to make it as painless as possible.
That you need love and support to get through it
When you’re in the throes of divorce—whether it’s amicable or acrimonious—you find yourself very, very alone. And those who have gone through the process come away with a much deeper appreciation of a simple hug and a heart-to-heart conversation with any close family member or friend.