New relationships are always exciting, intriguing, and passionate. We just have fun with our new partner and try to get to know them better without analyzing each other’s behavior. However, despite your enthusiasm for your new love, it’s crucial to pay attention to what’s going on during your honeymoon phase, because it can establish a good foundation for a long-lasting relationship.
We made a list of 10 early relationship mistakes that can come back to bite you in the future.
10. You’re putting your personal life on hold.
In the beginning of a relationship, we want to spend every waking moment with our new partner — we stop communicating with our old friends and abandon our family so that we can always be available for some mutual activities whenever our partner calls or texts us.
Why it’s bad: It can start off with just giving up certain friends, but then it will move on to switching jobs, moving to another country, or losing contact with your loved ones. In this case, your partner might lose interest in you because you’ve simply become a shadow of your former self.
How to fix it: Remember that healthy relationships always involve some degree of independence, so try to divide your free time according to the 50-30-20 rule — no more than 50% with your significant other, 30% with your friends and family, and 20% alone.
9. You’re tolerating bad behavior.
Disrespecting your personal space, making insensitive jokes, threatening to break up with you, making suggestions about how to improve your looks, calling you names, being aggressive, always showing up late, being glued to a phone during your dates, ignoring your rejections… Lots of people discount these red flags because some other aspects of their relationship seem to be good.
Why it’s bad: If you ignore these warning signs of a future toxic relationship for too long, one day you may realize that you’ve invested a lot of your time and energy in someone who’s been treating you badly for years.
How to fix it: Don’t be too demanding, just express your expectations in a polite way, like, “I can’t stand it when someone is always late,” or “I’d like our dates to be just you and me.” If this doesn’t work, run away immediately and never look back.